29 November 2011
Nancy Metcalf (1921-2011)
some may know of her as the wife of Paul Metcalf -- one of the most important American writers of the 20th century.
but I knew Nancy as a strong intelligent funny woman who always held her own in the household. yes she was the model of a writer's wife: loyal & supportive. but she knew who she was. I was lucky to have her as a friend.
when I visitd the Metcalfs at Wild Thymes I usually spent more time with Paul. Nancy always went to bed early. Paul & I wd then spend hours talking into the nite. but when Nancy & I had our time alone together there was never an awkward -- or quiet -- moment. it seems we were immediate friends. our conversations wd range from cooking to movies to things other worldy.
around the house are gifts from Nancy: an antique wooden bowl a Romertopf Warhol's cat book & from my last visit to her that beautiful rock which she gave me the moment I expressd my fascination with it.
Nancy Metcalf was one of the beautiful people in my life. I'll miss the way she'd suddenly break into a dance. that's what I see first when I think of her.